dig for lessons

Lex passed a year ago around this time on Israel's clock (so really the 29th of December, 2010).

And man, has time passed--looking back, it feels like forever ago that she died but somehow, the year has flown by so quickly and the craziest part is so much has happened...I've managed to catch a few lessons along the way: laugh and cry at the same time, a lot. Eat more things I'm not suppose to (knowing that Lex would indulge if she were here). And while I already maintain a positive persona, when I think of her, she inspires me to give a little bit more light to others (in other words, she helps brighten other people's days as well).

I've also learned what it means to be sad (in a very real yet unfamiliar way and now of course, a comfortable way). A friend a while back told me that being sad meant that you really had something special with the person who passed away and to feel sadness meant something special and real and honest. I believe that.

I wrote about translating sad emotions into empowering ones/ brave ones and I still hold that sentiment. But man, a year, a whole year, a year this earth, this world, our world, my world, your world has wrestled with sadness.

In all of it I realize, it's okay to be sad and cry--we wouldn't be human. We need those emotions to persevere and to survive. We need to know what sadness feels like so that when we enter into happiness, our level of happiness will be heightened and our smiles will be bigger and brighter and more honest. You will be higher (without the drugs). Go and be sad, but just, while you are in that sadness, that hole (you have to embrace that hole by the way--it's important) know that you can build your way out of it and dig for those lessons. That is how you grow to be stronger and of course, happier.

for this year, don't be so complacent with your emotions or yourself...you, yourself, at the end of the day are the one you need to count on so explore and discover and learn and share as much as possible.

inspired by lex,

new year wishes to you and yours...